Great Dialogue is an Innovative Activity

Innovative Teamwork Requires Great Dialogue

What does it sound like? What does it look like? How does it feel? What are you thinking and saying to yourself and the others? What are they saying to you? What do you see? How do you play together?

Here are some examples extracted from interviews by Alec Wilkinson with the gifted jazz pianist, Jason Moran and others who have experienced and shared his creative insight, Jazz Hands, by Alec Wilkinson, The New Yorker, March 11, 2013, pages 30-36.

“I’m in this dialogic mood. I’m thinking, Why did you do that? That’s not what I would do. Oh, I see what you’re doing. I don’t agree, but that’s interesting, I understand. I’m hearing him (Moran) go places that I wouldn’t have imagined, that I don’t understand temporarily, or maybe I will never understand, and that’s good, because a musician should be able to exceed his limitations or our understanding. He’s not playing this music to reassure you.”

“What you played at the very end, that’s where you should start,” Moran said. It’s almost like you played all that prelude just to find that little bit.”

“Stop,” Moran said. Stop. It’s its own rhetoric now…it’s like an exercise. In the beginning, you didn’t know where things were going. I want us to maintain that uncertainty. I don’t want to see autopilot. Where I want you to start is, I don’t know. I want a whole lot of I don’t know.”

“You have to look for open windows, he said. Generally, when I’m playing with people, I run for one and jump through. Eventually, I have to see if I can get back in. If you get into the habit of it, you might find something you value outside. Also, be conscious of range, We don’t want just to stay in the middle…”

“A teacher at another school had told her (Moran’s student) that only the right hand matters when you are playing with other people.” ‘That’s racist,’ Moran said. …The left hand has the power to tell the right hand, ‘This is the world you’re going to play in.’ I want us to build that part of the left hand.”

“The way he embraced the rhythm was raw, and his solos were more like Jackson Pollock paintings – lots of colors and big splashes of sound and energy, but also brimming with patience and maturity.”

Bill Frisell, the guitarist in Moran’s band, The Bandwagon: “With other pianists, you have to be careful about staying within a certain role, but he (Moran) leaves so much space, and he’s so aware of what’s happening all around him. He’s really playing what’s happening in that space at that time.

I asked Frisell if he thought the band had a private language. “they do have a private  language” he said, “It’s so hooked up, it’s very unique, but there is nothing obvious about it. It’s so unfathomable.”

“Is it close knit? Open? Dark? Brooding?

“Well, he said, “it’s all of that. They all can go off on their own.”

These music conversations evoke the underlying coherence in true dialogue described by the quantum physicist David Bohm in his classic, “On Dialogue,” Routledge Classics, 2004, pages 6-7.

“Dialogue comes from the Greek word dialogos. Logos means “the word,” or in our case we would think of the “meaning of the word” And dia means “through” – it doesn’t mean “two.” A dialogue can be among any number of people, not just two. Even one person can have a sense of dialogue within himself if the spirit of the dialogue is present. The picture or image that this derivation suggests is of a stream of meaning flowing among and through us and between us. This will make possible a flow of meaning in the whole group, out of which may emerge some new understanding. It’s something new, which may not have been in the starting point at all.. It’s something creative. And this shared meaning is the “glue” or “cement” that holds people and societies together.”

The corporate tribe too. Dialogue and teamwork require disciplines that are taken for granted, disciplines generally not taught at home or in school. The unsustainability and high death rate of corporations in the West are proof of the need for some serious rewiring in how they function.  Your staff may have all the educational and professional qualifications, yet face high risk of failure without training in dialogue and teamwork disciplines.

Every Organization is an Experiment

Every organization is an experiment. The purpose of the experiment is to keep the experiment going –  enable the organization to survive and achieve its maximum potential or benefit, however you define it. But the game keeps changing. Management (people!), markets, technologies, political, social and economic environments are continuously changing. So-called facts and reality change. They require changes in perceptions, assumptions and strategies, possibly shifts in power or leverage. Concepts of stability or permanence in business are delusions.

 

We are under constant pressure to re-adapt and innovate, or the experiment will fail. Sometimes we get caught up in egocentric self-hypnosis, skilled incompetence and delusions. We need to be reminded frequently that the purpose of the experiment is essentially to keep the experiment going or the organization will be lost. That’s It!

 

The majority of managers do not know how to keep the experiment going. They know how to analyze the organization as if it was a machine, they know about the relationships of its functions. Yet things still fall apart unless they learn how to recognize and understand the human energies that drive the machine.

 

Trust and Risk

“You got to have a little faith in people.” – Murielle Hemingway, “Manhattan”

I have witnessed the implosion of a client’s company – primarily due to the lack of trust that the CEO evidenced toward the intelligent people who worked for him. They intuitively sensed his narcissism and responded with resentment and cynicism in the face of his insincerity. The lack of shared values and coherence in this company’s culture subsequently manifest itself in the defection of major clients. All this taking place in a company that industry observers considered to be in the right place at the right time.

Trust is the glue that holds everything together. It trumps intelligence. There are lots of intelligent people on the planet in every relationship, marriage, organization and country. Regardless,when we fail to trust each other, then relationships, marriages, organizations and countries fall apart. Building trust with others requires that we take risks, drop defenses and trust ourselves, share our mutual vulnerability. This is not easy for management to do. It requires that we redefine power, drop assumptions, make an effort, concentrate, learn new skills and practice them every day.

We mortals have a responsibility to give more of ourselves, go beyond our static comfort zones, our armored individuality and competitive spirit. Trust is part of our DNA for survival. We cannot make it through the stress of life and work without interrelationship. There are no successful relationships or organizations without trust.

I work with organizations to build this kind of trust and develop the disciplines necessary to sustain it.

 

What do you see?

Some years ago, I was ambling along a dark and deserted East Village street in New York at about 1:00am on a summer evening when two young guys came toward me, walking at a fast pace from the opposite direction. They were talking and appeared to be taking no notice of me, when just as we were passing, one of them suddenly pushed me against a wall, and lightly pressed a knife across my throat. His eyes were close to mine, pinpoints, unreadable. He shouted at me, ‘What do you see, muthafucka!” No time for thought, but the answer must have been somewhere deep inside of me. Terrified, I answered softly but without hesitation, “I see a human being.” For just a moment, we looked at each other, and then he said, “Better watch your step, muthafucka,” and went off with his friend who had stood to the side during the entire incident.

I continued home, shaken and grateful to be still alive. However, in the next few days I found myself mulling over his question and his warning.

“What do you see,- – – – – – – – – -?”  Why do we need life threatening crises to give us the courage to abandon the comfort zones of our self important daily routines and make us look again at our faulty perceptions and negative assumptions we make about ourselves and others?  Why do we need the death of a loved one, catastrophic reminders of our own mortality, day to day failure in communicating with our friends, wives and children, business associates and strangers in order to change the nature of our relationships?

In order to learn and grow, we need to  revisit repeatedly the ladder of inference :  the so-called facts, our faulty perceptions of the facts, assumptions based on those perceptions and finally, our tightly held beliefs about ourselves and others based on those assumptions? We need to be aware of our feelings and challenge the the validity of the assumptions behind those feelings.

My mind keeps returning to that evening’s encounter. The question “What do you see and hear” now occupies more of my professional practice than any assumptions about knowing the right answers. Do I understand my own actions; and how much of an effort have I made to understand yours?  The quality of our communication with each other defines our relationships, our lives, even if we are total strangers, even if we fail to connect as we hoped.

 

“I’m alright, you are not”

Once every ten days or so I take our laundry to the local do it yourself laundromat. Although I can’t say that this is a chore of preference, I have made it reasonably pleasurable by taking along a good book, or I do some breathing meditation. Some of my time there is spent just observing the different types of people who come and go, trying to guess their stories.

Sometimes the machines don’t work. You pump in the quarters and nothing happens, there is no hot water, or the bill changers don’t function. Sometimes two or more of the machines don’t seem to work. I got into the habit of putting an “out of order or “broken” note on the front of the machine or stuffing the coin slot with some paper – actions intended to save others the same frustrating experience.

One day, Carlos, the attendant who will do the laundry for you if you want the extra service, climbed out of basement to survey his upper level self-service kingdom. He sees the notes I have just put on two machines, tears them off and angrily demands to know who put them there. I tell him that I did, because they don’t work. He insists they do work. I insist they don’t. More heatedly, he insists they do. He tells me that I have no right to attach notes to the machines. He is getting very angry and moving closer to my face.

This was beginning to feel like some kind of macho acting out. I didn’t like it, but refused to be intimidated or back off. Let me add that Carlos is at least 25 years younger than I, powerfully built and has the scarred and wary face of a street fighter. Foolishly, these facts did not bother me at the moment. He comes closer, wags his finger within three inches of my nose and tells me I am looking for big trouble. I grab his finger away from my nose but he puts it there again. At this moment, the owner of the Laundromat enters the store, yells at Carlos that he can’t fight with the customers; and sends him sulking back to the basement. The owner asks me what happened, I tell him, but find myself sticking up for Carlos, telling the owner that the whole incident is a misunderstanding, even my fault.Instinctively, I knew there was another dimension to the failure of this encounter, but could not define it yet.

I left the Laundromat feeling very shaky and fearful. More importantly, I felt deeply disturbed by the intensity of Carlos’ anger, but refuse to write him off as an unpleasant disturbed person or crazy  punk, an opinion I might have once held. I needed to risk it and discover if there was a better way. The next day I screwed up my courage to pay Carlos a visit at the Laundromat. He sat there angrily sulking at me as I entered the store. I walked up to him and simply said,

“You and I shouldn’t fight. You and I should be friends.”

“What do you want from me,” he said.

“Nothing,” I answered. “But you and I should be friends.”

Carlos didn’t say anything, walked a few steps away from me and then came back with a slightly softer look on his face. I extended my hand, he looked me in the eye and shook it. We stood there quietly talking for several minutes before I left and went home to dinner.

This experience got me thinking about other failures of relationship, most of them in business and marriage. How some of them might have turned out differently and for the better but at the moment of confrontation they seemed impossible to repair.

The source of our conflict was due to what is known as the “fundamental attribution error,” a psychological response first coined by Lee Ross,The intuitive psychologist and his shortcomings: Distortions in the attribution process, in L. Berkowitz (Ed.), Advances in experimental social psychology (vol. 10. New York: Academic Press. 1977.

It means that we make positive judgments on the circumstances and motives surrounding our own actions; we give ourselves a pass, but attribute ill will or bad intentions to the actions of others; place little or no value on the circumstances surrounding the other’s actions. Put simply it means I’m alright, but you are not!  I have known countless CEOs and top staffers who practice the fundamental attribution error daily in their interactions and decisions.

Happily, it takes only one person initially to see the truth behind the rigid roles that Carlos and I were acting out, one person who will take the risk necessary to establish something more human, something more productive than the role playing we start out with.  Thank you, Carlos.